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Jun 29

Epic Wins for Same-Sex Marriage!

Posted on Saturday, June 29, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoWhat a Sexy Saturday it is! This has been an amazing week for lesbians and gay men.  This past Thursday, June 27th, the Supreme Court partially overturned the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and in even better news Prop 8 was overturned and now anyone can marry whomever they love in California.  And just in time for PRIDE. That’s freaking hot! 

I must admit I was rather confused when the news started reading the Justices decisions. Lucky for me there were multiple news outlets more than happy to help me interpret the ruling well enough. I understand the Supreme Court kind of chickened out and didn’t really rule on Prop 8 per se. Instead they let a lower court ruling stand by default. However it happened lesbian women and gay men can get married in California now. I’m down with that.

San Francisco City Hall in Rainbow colors

San Francisco City Hall lit in Rainbow colors

While its super hot about Prop 8 here in California, unfortunately legal same-sex marriages performed here may not be recognized in other states. The Supreme Court overturned part of DOMA but left intact a section leaving it up to each individual state to choose whether or not to recognize same-sex marriages performed in other states such as California. DOMA was ugly; it refused to recognize same-sex spouses on a federal level effectively denying them access to rights and benefits available to heterosexual spouses.

I think it is ridiculous that in 2013 the Supreme Court even had to be involved in an issue as basic as love. Waiting for the Supreme Court to rule on issues of who can get married again reminded me of an earlier time when anti-miscegenation laws were in effect.  Granted I wasn’t alive in 1967 when the Supreme Court ruled anti-miscegenation laws were unconstitutional. For those who don’t know, anti-miscegenation laws made it illegal to marry interracially and in some instances to even have sex with someone of a difference race.  Pure BS, I tell you.

While great progress was made this week, there is more to be done – and I’m not just talking about marriage equality.  I’d like to believe that this is one step leading to a day and time when people won’t be judged for the color of our skin, the body part between our legs, or whom we allow to play with that part. This week’s rulings make me hopeful that day will come sooner rather than later. Let me stop before I get on my soap box. I’ve got to go start getting ready for San Francisco PRIDE celebration! Given this week’s historic, and epic wins I know PRIDE is going down! I’ll be there in something with rainbow condoms. I certainly hope to see you there! Until next Saturday…

Keep it safe ‘n sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

Jun 22

Something to Celebrate

Posted on Saturday, June 22, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays, UC Berkeley

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoWelcome to another Sexy Saturday. The month of June has a couple of weekends that are a bit sexier than others – Juneteenth in mid-June and PRIDE at the end. Both events celebrate groups that have been historically mistreated in the US. When I woke up this morning there was a news segment highlighting an “outcry” at Richmond’s City Hall because Mayor McLaughlin approved a request to fly the rainbow PRIDE flag to show support for Richmond’s gay, bisexual, and transgender residents.  Turns out there are a few employees who feel that flying the PRIDE flag is offensive to the faith-based community.  Really? What does the faith-based community have against rainbows? They’re pretty, colorful, and appear to come from heaven. Seems to me the faith-based community should LOVE and support a rainbow.  Ijs.  

Okay, I admit that last statement was somewhat facetious. On a more serious note, I do find it sad and ironic that some Black folks discriminate against and may even condemn gay people, often in the name of religion. I think this is absurd, ridiculous and can only be the result of ignorance.  Especially since many of these same Black people claim to be Christian believing in a God that was forced upon them during slavery. I’m not a Black militant by any means, nor am I a feminist or a lesbian. I am, however, an educated Blackss 25 Something to Celebrate woman who believes in a person’s right to be them, whomever they may be – Black, white, gay, not gay, be you and do you!

Discriminating against an entire group of people because of who they may be sexually and romantically attracted to is as stupid as discriminating against a group people based on the color of their skin. RIDICULOUS!  Let’s be clear – gay people have as much control over who gets their penis hard and vagina wet as Black people do over the color of their skin. Instead of hating on others for something they can’t control, I suggest coming together and supporting one another. These next 2 weekends are a great time to start.

Come out today and celebrate the end of chattel slavery at Richmond’s Juneteenth event.  Juneteenth celebrates the time when enslaved Black Americans in Galveston, Texas finally received news that 2.5 years earlier, then President Lincoln had signed the Emancipation Proclamation officially ending slavery in the US.  Slaves in Galveston were the last to learn of their freedom. Juneteenth events generally focus on self-improvement and education of Black people. There’s always great food, entertainment, and fun activities at Juneteenth events. Not to mention the various fashions you’ll see – some better than others.

Then come out next weekend to celebrate San Francisco gay PRIDE.  PRIDE events celebrate our lesbian, gay, bisexual, andss25 something to celebrate 2 transgender people and their struggle to be recognized and accepted. Granted, sexual orientation is not always as obvious as race and ethnicity. However, that doesn’t mean the systematic mistreatment of gay folks was not and is not reprehensible.  San Francisco’s PRIDE events scheduled for next weekend are among the largest PRIDE celebrations in the world with a parade, great entertainment, food, and fun activities. This year, UC Berkeley’s Sexual Health Education Programs (SHEP) human-sized penis will be in the PRIDE parade. What a good day to be a sex positive dick!

If we want to change the world and make a better, more positive, and sexier place, we have to recognize that it is our differences that make us the beautiful folks we are and stop bickering over dumb things like flying a flag. I know I sound like a free-loving hippie but I don’t mind. I’ll be at Juneteenth and PRIDE celebratory events in all my sexy Blackness! Hope to see you there, until next Saturday.  

Keep it safe ‘n sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

Jun 15

Keepin’ it Safe ‘n Sexy with HPV Vaccines

Posted on Saturday, June 15, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays, UC Berkeley

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoLast week I wrote about Michael Douglas and his claim that he believes his throat cancer was caused by performing oral sex on a woman with human papilloma virus (HPV). Said woman may have prevented her alleged HPV infection had she completed the HPV vaccine.  As promised today’s Sexy Saturday article is all about how to keep it safe and sexy with Gardasil and Cervarix – the only FDA approved HPV vaccines.

Gardasil was the first HPV vaccine to be approved by the FDA for use in young women and girls age 9 through 26.  Gardasil was later approved for use in young men of the same age range. In young women, Gardasil is effective against 4 strains of HPV – types 6, 11, 16, and 18 – known to be major contributing factors in cervical cancer, vulvar and vaginal cancers, anal cancers, genital warts, and several precancerous lesions. More recently research has shown HPV type 16 to be a major player in oral cancers as well. In young men, Gardasil is effective against genital warts, anal cancers, as well as precancerous anal lesions. Specifically, Gardasil is around 75% effective against HPV related strains of cervical cancer, 70% effective against vaginal cancers, 50% effective against vulvar cancers, and 90% effective against genital warts.  Wow, that’s pretty freaking effective! Gardasil benefits are most effective if taken prior to any exposure to HPV. Gardasil does not treat or remove strains that a young woman or man was exposed to or may have at the time of receiving the vaccine.

While Gardasil offers protection from more strains of HPV than Cervarix, both are good options for a young woman to consider with regard to HPV prevention.  Cervarix is protective against 2 strains of HPV – types 16 and 18 – commonly related to cervical cancer in young women. Cervarix is approved by the FDA for use in young women only, ages 9-25.

Both Gardasil and Cervarix are given as a series of three injections. The timing of injections is important and differs slightly betweess24 hpv vaccinesn the two vaccines. The first dosage of Gardasil should be followed 2 months later by the second dosage. The third and final dosage should be injected 6 months later. With Cervarix the second dosage should be injected only 1 month after the first, and the last injection should be 6 months after dose 2.  Some people may have HPV immunity after only 2 doses. However, it is recommended that all 3 doses be completed to receive maximum benefits and protection.

Side effects for both vaccines may include but are in no way limited to pain, swelling, and soreness at the site of the injection as well as headaches, and fainting. Like any vaccine, Gardasil and Cervarix are not for everyone. If you are considering an HPV vaccine, I suggest consulting with your primary care doctor before starting the vaccine series. If you are a UC Berkeley student the Tang Center offers Gardasil for any and all Cal Bears within the FDA-approved age range. If you’re not a Cal student, your local family planning clinic such as Planned Parenthood or your primary care doctor can likely answer your HPV vaccine questions and provide the injections. With these HPV vaccines available I am hopeful that at some time in the not too distant future we will live in a world free of HPV related cancers and genital warts. Wouldn’t that be nice? Until next Saturday…

Keep it safe ‘n sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

Jun 8

Michael Douglas Got Oral Cancer From Doing What!?!

Posted on Saturday, June 8, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoOver this past week well-known actor Michael Douglas has made quite a splash in the media with his confession that he has throat cancer which he believes may have been caused by HPV and oral sex. With his confession there has been so much mis/information that has come out about HPV and whether or not Michael Douglas was really able to get an oral cancer from performing oral sex on a woman, presumably not his wife – reportedly she doesn’t have HPV. Putting the gossip aside, this Sexy Saturday article will address the issue of oral cancer and HPV infection with the understanding that the sexiest thing about HPV is knowing enough about it to prevent it.

Human papilloma virus (HPV) is a viral infection with more than 100 strainsimagesCAXYF3BR that may potentially affect the genitals or throat. Of the more than 100 strains of HPV some of these may lead to genital wart infections while others may lead to dysplasia and various cancers including cervical, vaginal, penile, anal, and oral cancers infecting the throat, tongue, and/or tonsils. HPV is found in bodily fluids such as saliva, semen and genital secretions of both males and females making transmission through  oral sex totally and completely possible. Michael Douglas may be right as it is entirely possible that he did get oral cancer from eating an HPV infected vulva.

Recent studies have identified HPV type 16 as a culprit in most cervical cancers and now in oral cancers as well. As it turns out the moist tissues of the mouth, vagina, and cervix are similar and this particular type of dysplasia causing HPV is highly attracted to such tissue. Dysplasia is not cancer itself, but refers to abnormal cell changes that often lead to cancer(s).

HPV is a pretty common infection. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) estimates more than 2,300 new cases of HPV related oral cancers are diagnosed annually in women, while men are diagnosed more often with over 9,300 new cases annually.[1] White men are more likely to be diagnosed with HPV related oral cancers than are non-white men and womenimagesCA9LAQTL in general.[2]  Bad news for college students and others who like to drink as drinking and smoking cigarettes is associated with increased risk of oral HPV transmission. With this in mind, think twice about dining at the “Y” without a bib – especially if you’re under the influence of alcohol.

Unfortunately, there is no standard medical test to detect HPV, however, you can screen for cell changes which may be indicative of HPV. In some cases abnormal cell changes, or dysplasia, may be seen using a high-powered microscope. More often than not, oral cancers are found in the back of the throat. If you notice any new lumps in your throat or neck, or if you think there’s a chance you may have contracted an oral HPV, it is recommended that you make an appointment with your primary care provider to be assessed. If you’ve completed the 3-series HPV vaccine treatment you may be immune to the types of HPV likely to cause oral cancers. In a later article, I’ll write all about other types of HPV and vaccine options. Until next Saturday…

Keep it safe ‘n sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

 


Jun 1

The Plan: Preventing Unintended Pregnancy

Posted on Saturday, June 1, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays, UC Berkeley, Women's health

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoWelcome to the first Sexy Saturday in June! Earlier this week, on Thursday, I posted It Could Happen to YOU! by guest blogger Tina – a recent student in my human sexuality class at San Ramon Valley College.  In It Could Happen to YOU!, Tina describes a situation that happens all too often – young woman meets guy, likes guy, believes guy likes her, has unprotected sex with guy, gets pregnant, guy denies her and questions if baby is really his, young woman emotionally devastated.  Many young people have a perception that unintended pregnancy only happens to other people and could NEVER happen to them – trust and believe it can happen to anyone having penis-vagina sex without condoms and/or birth control.  You’re in luck because situations like this can be avoided and I’m going to tell you how.

To avoid situations like the one described by my student here are a few suggestions:

  • Have sex on your own terms and when you’re ready.  Having sex on someone else’s terms may make it more difficult for you to express your desire to use safer sex methods like traditional (male) or insertive (female) condoms. Participating in sexual experiences on your terms is more likely to have more pleasurable and positive emotional outcomes. Remember, you are the best person to determine when you are ready to have sex.
  • Discuss the goals of the sex. If you decide to have sex it is important to be clear with your partner about what each of youSS 22 couple pic are hoping to get out of the experience. Possible goals include the 3 Ps: pleasure, procreation, and payment in the form of money or gifts.  
  • Make a pregnancy prevention plan BEFORE having sex if you and your partner decide the goal of your experience is not for procreation or having children. Your pregnancy prevention plan may be to use traditional or insertive condoms with each sexual experience. Maybe your plan is to use some form of highly effective hormonal contraception such as the pill, patch, vaginal insert, shot, implanted rod, or device placed in your uterus. While both are good plans, a better plan is to use both a hormonal contraceptive and barrier method like a condom.
  • Say “no” to unprotected penis-vagina sex. If you or your partner have not had time to plan and prepare for preventing pregnancy it’s best to not have sex. It can be very uncomfortable to be in a situation where you’re hot, horny, and have an attractive and willing partner as in Tina’s article. However, it is way more uncomfortable to find yourself pregnant and alone with a life changing decision to make. By saying “no” to unprotected sex doesn’t mean that you don’t want to have sex or that you are not attracted to your partner, but that you respect yourself and your partner enough to not have either of you end up as a statistic. If you’re really feeling that person and have no protection suggest a sexy, less risky alternative: oral sex, fingering or digital sex, romantic dinner, sharing fantasies, or having a PG-13 make-out session are great alternatives.

If your pregnancy prevention plan fails you or you failed to have a plan and don’t want to find yourself in a situation like that in It Could Happen to YOU! take Plan B One Step – an Emergency Contraceptive (EC) or morning after pill that prevents pregnancy. It is most effective (up to ~87%) when taken  within the first 72 hours but may be used up to 5 days or 120 hours after having unprotected sex or sex in which your barrier method broke or somehow became dislodged.  Plan B is available to anyone age 17 and over withoutSS 22 The Plan a prescription at local pharmacies and family planning clinics; anyone under 17 can visit their local family planning clinic like Planned Parenthood or your regular doctor. If you’re a Cal student Plan B is available at the Tang Center pharmacy. In a later blog article I’ll discuss what to do if you’re in this situation and it’s too late to take Plan B. Until next Saturday…

Keep it safe ‘n sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

 

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