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Sep 28

MoSex

Posted on Saturday, September 28, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess logoMy birthday recently passed -yay for living 3+ decades. All I wanted to do was go to New York. So, go to NY, I did! When most folks set their sites on NY it’s usually to party, visit the statue of liberty, and since 9/11 visit the memorial. As you’ve probably figured out by now, I’m different. I’ve wanted to go to NY ever since learning the Museum of Sex (MoSex) was there.

Visiting MoSex was awesome! MoSex is a tri-level museum with a store located on the bottom. The theme of the first level was digital sex. The items on display included the complete transcript between Anthony Weiner and one of the women he was sexting with, a row of red phones each with a different persons sexual experiences recorded, and digital images of various male and female anatomy. There was one display that took up an entire wall. It was the top 100 sex related searches on the internet. I must say that I was intrigued by some of the searches like “Granny” sex. I don’t know about you, but I certainly don’t want to see anyone’s grandmother having sex. But let me not yuck that yum.wpid-museum-of-sex.jpg

The second floor was split into 2 rooms. One room was mostly dedicated to the life and work of William Kent. Other items included sculptures made out of wood and black onyx like rock. My favorite was a huge wooden penis that looked like it belongs to a robot. Several 70s era framed posters filled a small section of the room. Cunt love was popular in the 70s! The other room was all about cross-species sex. There were displays of animals who have sex for pleasure as well as homosexual sex, and oral sex. My favorite display in the room was a statue of a bonobo monkey with a placard explaining that he was soliciting sex for money. Well actually he was attempting to exchange sex for bananas. I couldn’t help but laugh.

The final room was a small selection of their regular exhibit. The room was actually a bit bare with only a few sculptures on one side of the wall. The other side was filled with a condom sculpture that appeared to bend in whatever direction you were looking at it from, and postcards. There was a set of “Real Dolls” hanging near the back of the wall. On my way out there was wall of derrieres , a picture of all the disney characters having what looked like an orgy at Disneyland, and vintage porn pictures to top it off! The best part is that I have pictures of it all! Until next Saturday…

Keep It Safe ‘n Sexy,
Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Sep 21

Cassidy Campbell: That’s Homecoming Queen to You

Posted on Saturday, September 21, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

 Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess logo On this Sexy Saturday, I was planning to write about my recent visit to the Museum of Sex, MoSex, in New York City. However, I was watching the news when I heard that student, Cassidy Campbell, in So. Cal has made history as the first transgender homecoming queen in our nation. That’s hot! The MoSex article can wait until next week. 

As I continued to watch the news clip, I was excited that Cassidy had actually won homecoming queen, but no one was more excited and surprised than Cassidy herself. She literally broke down in tears of joy. Cassidy’s joyful tears were not just because she had been crowned homecoming queen, but that she was the first transgender teen to do so.  Her running and subsequent crowning set a positive example for other transgender teens in the state and nationwide.

While Cassidy winning homecoming queen is a small victory, it is an important one that could not have come at a better time. Youn-TRANSGENDER-HOMECOMING-QUEEN-large may have heard or even read in my recent blog, Comfortable in Your Own Body, that Governor Jerry Brown made history by signing into law rights for transgender youth in California.  This first-ever Transgender law supports transgender teens’ right to be themselves at school. Under this law, transgender teens can choose to use the restroom that is in accordance with their gender identity as opposed to using the one that matches their biological sex – or what was between their legs at birth. This law also paves the way for transgender teens to play and compete in sports once segregated by gender such as football and basketball.

Not surprising, the Transgender Law has come under fire from the same special people who fought so hard to overturn same-sex marriage in California – we all know how that ended. You’d think this group would give it up. Yet they’re moving full steam ahead in efforts to collect enough signatures to put an initiative on the next election ballot that would overturn the Transgender Law. This group believes that enough people in the state of California will support them. To this group that is obviously anti-love and anti-general human-kindness, I certainly hope Cassidy Campbell’s being crowned homecoming queen encourages you to open your eyes and recognize that more and more people are in favor of our basic human rights to love and happiness.  Such basic rights certainly includes the right to be true to ourselves – whomever we may be with regard to gender, sexual orientation, and more. If this is not the case for you anti-love folks you can take Cassidy’s shimmering crown and shove it where the sun don’t shine. Fantastic job, Cassidy and the teens at Marina High who voted for her! Until next Saturday…

Keep it safe ‘n sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

 

 

Sep 14

Power of Peeking

Posted on Saturday, September 14, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess logoOver the past couple of weeks I’ve been teaching my students about reproductive anatomy and pleasure physiology. I am amazed that although society seems to be moving in a more sex positive direction, many people are overly concerned with the appearance of their genitals, or may not even know what they look like. The latter concerns me more. If you’re one of these people this article is for you. Every semester I’m approached after the anatomy sections and asked if it is normal to look a certain way – having a vulva with longer inner lips (labia minora) than the outer lips (labia majora), a large clitoris, or maybe the head of your penis is larger than you’d like it to be. I’m also approached by people who have yet to check out their genitals. Rest assured that much like a snowflake no 2 genitals are the same, yet each is beautiful in its own unique way and certainly worth a gander at least once.

I love my cunt – did I shock you by using that word? I love my cunt for tons of reasons that I will not bore you with right now. I look at it often. I’ve been known to absentmindedly rest my hand on my vulva in public places and at work.  However, until my late teens my vulva and I had a much different relationship – I touched it…well I’d touched my clitoris quite a bit but never looked at my vulva. Then one day my mom suggested that I take a mirror and check it out. That was great advice! Knowing what my cunt looks like made a huge difference in how I felt about myself as a sexual being. I began to appreciate and embrace my vulva.  I’ve even named my cunt – no, I won’t be disclosing her name.

Though my mother was not and is not a sexual health educator, her suggestion to look at my genitals, though practical was genius!mirror for ss 5 Now, I suggest it to my students, clients, and anyone else who discloses to me that they have never checked their genitals. Your physical sex, in this instance referring to your genitals, is a large part of you – some larger than others – and you should get to know that part of yourself. Many of us look at ourselves in the mirror every day. If you’re like my daughter you may look at yourself several times a day. There’s something about being able to visualize things that makes it more real and easier to value.  This applies to your genitals just as well as anything.

Your homework for the evening is to find some time to learn more about your genitals. Grab a mirror, spread your legs and see what exactly you’re working with.  If you’ve seen your genitals yet didn’t like what you saw, look again with a positive mindset. Think of all that your genitals do for you – gives and receives pleasure through multiple and various forms of stimulation; allows you to urinate and ejaculate, and much more. You may discover a pretty mole that you never knew existed. Mirror, mirror on the wall, who has the most gorgeous genitals of all? You, that’s who! If you’re feeling extra adventurous consider using a speculum to inspect some internal parts as well such as the vagina, cervix, and rectum. No matter what your genitals look like, they’re yours. Embrace them. Love them. Get friendly with your genitals. Until next Saturday…

Keep It Safe ‘n Sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

Sep 7

Cunt: Vulvalicious or Derogatory?

Posted on Saturday, September 7, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays, UC Berkeley

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess logoRecently I’ve had several opportunities to chat about the word “cunt” with my students at UC Berkeley and San Ramon College. Given that cunt is one of my favorite words, I’ve been pleasantly surprised by my students shared appreciation for it…well for the most part. This makes me feel that the social climate among young folks is ripe and now would be a great time to try to reclaim cunt again. I say again because many others have tried to reclaim cunt with no major progress. However, I’d like to believe that each attempt has contributed in some way to the current cultural climate in which young people can have “cunt love” as one of my Berkeley students likes to say.

Cunt was originally used to refer to the female external genitals, or vulva. It’s a popular word that appears in many languages including German, French, Spanish, English and more. Though the spelling may change somewhat with each language. I’m not really sure who used it first, although I believe it was Germans. By the time cunt made it to modern English language it was still used to refer to the female genitals yet held derogatory connotations. At one point, cunt was thought to be one of the worst words you could use in English, if not the worst.

By referring to women as cunts, people effectively reduced women to no more than our genitals. I don’t know about other women, but I am not just a hole existing solely for the pleasure of others, men especially. I am so much more, yet, I do have a cunt – a lovely one!Cunt

I think of cunt as a multi-use and purpose word. As a sexologist and sexual health educator, I like the word cunt as an alternative to vulva.  However, in classes and workshops I tend to use vulva as not many people have heard it and it provides a teachable moment. I also use it more in these settings because it is more appropriate when discussing sexual health.

When I’m not in health educator mode, I love cunt for the shock factor. Don’t believe me? Refer to your own or some females genitals as a cunt and see what kind of reaction you get. The reaction may be one of shock and/or disbelief that you actually said cunt. Either way, the reaction will likely be immediate. Sometimes I like to use cunt to piss people off. When I was young my godfather taught me to use it as an acronym to describe folks who Can’t Understand Normal Thinking – in fact, this was my first understanding of the word. As an acronym it equally applies to males, females, and anyone else acting like an idiot. In fact, in French cunt alternatively meant to describe idiot like behavior. I don’t know if this is still true.

As a sex positive womanist, I like that attempts to reclaim cunt have largely been directed at women owning our sex and sexuality. With more young people embracing sex positivity, I certainly hope to see this meaning and association of cunt excel over the next few years.  The next time I’m offered oral sex and I want it, I’ll proudly say “yes, I’d love for you to lick my cunt.” Until next Saturday…

Keep It Safe ‘n Sexy,
Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess

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