Have you ever had a great sexual experience but found yourself wondering if you had an orgasm? If so, this Sexy Saturday’s article is for you. First, I have to tell you there are various orgasms recognized. For example Sigmund Freud believed women could only experience orgasms vaginally or in our clitoris. He also thought that mature women preferred vaginal orgasms to clitoral. He’d think I am incredibly immature because I prefer any orgasm I’m having.
Some people agree with Freud that there are 2 types of female orgasms, others believe in only one type of orgasm, and still others think multiple types of orgasms are possible. I believe in one basic orgasm caused by different types of stimulation. As a result, orgasms feel more intense in the area where the stimulation is focused. In general the majority of orgasms are pleasurable contractions in the uterus, pelvic muscles, and anal sphincters that occur rapidly. Orgasms also include muscle spasms or tensing all over your body, with an increase in heart rate and blood pressure. Such orgasmic sensations may be focused either directly or indirectly on clitoral stimulation, g-spot stimulation, or any combination of these.
Direct clitoral orgasms feel like rapid contractions radiating from the clitoris. You can achieve this type of orgasm by stimulating the glans, or head, of the clitoris. You’ll find the glans just under the clitoral hood. As you get aroused the clitoral hood will slide back, revealing the head of the clitoris. Clits respond to various types of stimulation. You and your partner can have fun trying different types of pressure, motion, and methods. Toys can be a super fun addition!
Indirect clitoral orgasms often feel like rapid contractions spreading from inside the vagina. The clitoris is more than the part you can see. It extends inside the body with legs that can be stimulated with vaginal penetration. By stimulating the legs of the clitoris, the clitoris itself may be indirectly stimulated to orgasm. If this is the type or orgasm you’re going for, try penetrating the vagina with a penis, dildo, vibrator, or some other hard phallic object. Alternating motion may help.
G-spot orgasms are often felt as rapid contractions deeper in the vagina and may be accompanied by female ejaculatory fluid – you may have heard of it. There is some controversy over whether the “g-spot” really exists. I assure you my g-spot exists. I believe your g-spot exists as well; you may just need a little help finding and stimulating yours. If you or your partner insert a finger about 1-2 knuckles into your vagina, facing toward the belly you’ll feel tissue that is a bit harder and ridged, kind of like the roof of your mouth. Congrats, you’ve found the g-spot! Stimulate this area using that cheesy “come here” 2-finger wave. After several minutes of continued stimulation you may feel as if you’re going to urinate before experiencing female ejaculation.
Combo orgasm can be any combination of the orgasms just described. To achieve this type of orgasm you’ll need to stimulate multiple areas at the same time. It may be easier to have a g-spot and indirect clitoral orgasm because the vagina and g-spot can be easily stimulated simultaneously. However, ladies, it may be worth it to mention that several sex toys are designed to stimulate multiple areas of your pleasure zone simultaneously for as long as you’d like.
The degree of intensity that we feel with each orgasm varies. I totally also believe that because we’re awesome, many women have the ability to have any of the orgasms described over and over and over. You may have one huge earth moving orgasm with mild aftershocks. You may have a series of smaller orgasms leading up to a larger orgasm. You may have 1 orgasm. Best of all – you can experience all of these orgasms solo or with a partner! I hope this helps you achieve that elusive orgasm and know it. Until next Saturday…
Keep it safe ‘n sexy,
Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess
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