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The Great Thing About Foreplay

Posted on Saturday, March 8, 2014 in Sexy Saturdays, UC Berkeley

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess logoDo you remember your first PG-13 make-out session? I do. I was 13 years old. I was in my first “real” relationship. I was in my room or somewhere – I don’t really remember that part. What I do remember is kissing my partner for minutes at a time coming up only for air. When I say minutes at a time, I think we kissed for about an hour. During the make-out session we touched each other under our shirts. The sensations that my body experienced were AMAZING! It was the first time my vagina tingled that special way that it does when I’m horny. When the session was over my panties were soaked and my partner had an erection that was clearly visible through his super baggy jeans.  We hadn’t had sex of any kind – just passionately kissing and touching. I’m not talking about the kind of kiss you give your Grandma. I’m talking about the type of kissing that involves open mouths and often an exchange of saliva. You may know it as French, TV, or deep kissing, swapping spit, tongue wrestling, doing the tongue tango, or some other name.  That PG-13 make-out session was my introduction to sexual experiences and foreplay.

While kissing is the most common form of foreplay, it is not nearly the only form.  Foreplay is any verbal or physical interaction that foreplay 2leads to sexual desire or arousal. Often time’s foreplay is used as a prelude to orgasm or sex – whatever type you may be having. Verbal foreplay may be calling your partner on the phone and telling them how much you want to ravish them the next time the two of you are together. It may be speaking in sexy, breathy voice, or whispering sweet nothings or dirty talk. Physical forms of foreplay may include cuddling, kissing, touching, and oral sex, and more. The great thing about foreplay is that literally anything you and your partner(s) do to turn each other on counts. How hot is that!?!

Goal of foreplay is to have a pleasurable sexual experience.  It may or may not be a prelude to orgasm or sex. The duration of foreplay varies from experience to experience. You may have a short period of foreplay that lasts just minutes. You may have foreplay that starts in the morning and lasts all day. For the record, women report wanting longer periods of foreplay than men do. Figured I’d throw that out there as a hint to any of you hoping to have sex with women.

foreplay 1There are several hormones that play a role in sexual arousal including testosterone, estrogen, progesterone, and more. Foreplay is important as it helps to stimulate the release of these sexy hormones and heighten sexual experiences. If you are using foreplay as a prelude to sex with penetration it is a great way to get your vagina wet enough or penis erect in preparation. If you are using foreplay as a prelude to orgasm, it is a great way to stimulate your partner all the way to your goal! If you’re not using foreplay as a prelude to sex or orgasm as many people do, it’s a great way to build intimacy between you and your partner(s).

Today is a great day for some foreplay. Call, text, or snapchat that lucky someone and tell them all the things you want to do to them…consensually, of course! You’re on your way to enjoying foreplay. Until next Saturday…

Keep it safe and sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

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  1. knowledge says:

    But how important is foreplay? What about having sex without. Does that take away for sex.. is there a level you wish to hit in foreplay before intercourse..it’s sex without foreplay better. Good topic but it has some UN answered questions.. please elaborate, if your knowable..

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