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Mar 23

Anal Debut Concerns: Pain and the Poop Factor

Posted on Saturday, March 23, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoWelcome back to another Sexy Saturday! Today’s topic is concerns commonly associated with anal penetration debuts as we continue with sexual debuts this month. Just to be clear, this article is not an attempt to convince you to try anal sex, rather to address common concerns for those who may be considering it or are simply curious with no intention of trying it. With that stated, the three most common concerns I hear with regard to anal penetration are whether or not it will be painful,  maintaining the ability to control defecating (pooping) after, and does anal sex mean you’re  gay. If done properly, your anal sex debut can be pleasurable for males and females.

With regard to pain, the first time your anus is penetrated it may be a little uncomfortable but not necessarily painful. Similarly to vaginal debuts, a little planning and preparation as well as foreplay can make a huge difference with anal sex debuts. The anus, unlike the vagina, is not going to lubricate itself. Therefore you’ll want to plan ahead and have a thicker lube handy. One of the jobs of the anus is to absorb liquid so having a thicker lube will last longer as it will take longer to be absorbed. Lube will help reduce anal tearing as well as increase pleasure.

With lube in hand you are ready to do an anal massage. Sound familiar from last week’s article? Anal massage is easy to do – put some lube on the anus and on you or your partner’s gloved fingers then gently rub the anal opening in a circular motion. Interesting thing about anuses is they have voluntary and involuntary sphincter muscles. If these muscles are stimulated and relaxed they will allow your finger(s) to slip right in. You want to start anal penetration with something small and gradually work your way up to a penis or phallus of your choice.

On to the second most common concern I hear: Will your butt-hole go back to the original size? While people state their concern thisSS12 anal sex way, when probed a bit deeper what they’re really wondering is whether or not their anus is going to be too loose to hold in fecal matter (poop). This answer is simple and easy – anal sex will not make your anus so loose that poop comes out when you don’t want it to. However, after your debut you may feel a little uncomfortable with regard to this concern for a few hours or days for some people.

A concern closely related to this one is whether or not feces will be present on the penis or phallus penetrating the anus. Again, with planning this concern can be easily eliminated. If you have a bowel movement 1 or more hours before you begin your anal debut you should be just fine. Depending on how recently you’ve moved your bowels there may be an odor of feces, but not much actual feces. If this is a major concern, you can use an anal enema to empty any remnants of fecal matter. Honestly though, I don’t think this is necessary for your debut. If you try anal sex and you plan to have it regularly and have issues with hygiene you may want to consider this at that time.

The third most common concern is does anal penetration mean you’re gay? No, it does not. This is true for males and females. What it does mean is that you are a person who enjoys the pleasures of sex and are open to experiencing such pleasure through anal stimulation. It does not make you less “manly” if you’re a heterosexual guy. In fact, in my opinion, it would make you more manly because you have the balls to experience anal pleasure despite stupid social stigmas here in the US.

Before I go, I’d like to leave you with this: if you don’t properly plan and prepare your anus for penetration it absolutely can be painful. For the record, it is not a good idea to have your anal sex debut in the back of your partner’s car no matter how big the back seat is. As with any sexual debut, being with someone you care about and you believe cares about you too can make for a much better emotional experience. In a later article I’ll discuss the benefits of anal pleasure for males and females. Until next Saturday…

Keep it safe and sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

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