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May 4

Rape Lyrics: Rick Ross Isn’t the Only One

Posted on Saturday, May 4, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoWelcome to another Sexy Saturday! I moved last weekend and spent this past week cleaning out my old place. To make things go faster, I listened to a variety of music stations. Some stations I listened to live while others I listened to through my “I <3 radio” app. I had about 7 go to, hip-hop and R&B stations. Apparently I had a trigger song as well. Every time this song came on that was my queue to change the station. This must be a popular song because I changed stations a lot. The song is How Many Drinks by R&B artist, Miguel. I know some of you are thinking “Oh, that’s my song!” That’s fine, the song has a great beat, but I encourage you to listen more closely to the words the next time you hear the song.

In the first verse of this song, Miguel is already heading in the wrong direction when he sings “frustration watching you dance, invitation to get in them pants.” Just because someone is dancing in such a way that turns you on does not in any way mean that person wants to have sex with you. Dancing is just dancing and should not be taken as an invitation to do anything more. The chorus opens with him being honest about the fact that he “aint leavin’ alone.” Well, gee, thanks for your honesty. A few short lines later heSS18 Miguel article asks “how many drinks would it take for you to leave with me?”  Wow! Really? Where is Miguel from? I certainly hope he’s not from California because it’s illegal to get people drunk and have sex with them as you imply here in your song lyrics. In California that is considered rape.

From there the song gets rude and condescending. But it has a slow and sexy beat so some may not notice the lyrics. If they do, maybe they aren’t thinking about what the lyrics mean.  That’s what I have to tell myself because clearly Miguel went to the club with the idea of finding someone to take home for sexual purposes. Instead of relying on his personality and good looks, he chooses to ply the person with drinks until they “decide” to go home with him. I’ve never seen him – is he not that good looking?

As you can see, this song really irks me. People were so upset with Rick Ross over his song where he raps about drugging females and having sex with them that he lost his Reebok endorsement. Well, Miguel’s song is the exact same thing. Only his drug of choice was alcohol. By the amount of times I had to change stations because of this song, I can only imagine that it is quickly climbing the music charts. I’m not defending Rick Ross, I think Miguel, Webbie and a few others who’ve rapped or sang about raping people should be treated similarly and have endorsements taken away. No one should be rewarded for bad behavior. However, people apparently use alcohol as a tool to obtain sex so regularly that few others have recognized this song as contributing to rape culture. But rather listen, and dance whenever it is played.

I’m not calling for a boycott of anyone’s music. Listen, dance, hell sing a long if you feel so inclined. I do, however, think it’d be freaking awesome if people would listen more closely to some of the popular song lyrics and think about the impact the messages have. I’m just saying. Until next Saturday…

Keep it safe ‘n sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

Feb 23

Prepping for Drunk Sex

Posted on Saturday, February 23, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoHave you seen the pages dedicated to drunken college hook-ups? I have and I find them disturbing on many levels, although I have found a few positives which I may share in a follow-up article. This is not an entirely new article, but rather a revision of one that I wrote as an op-ed piece in response to an article on drunken sex that pissed me off.

Instead of attacking the student(s) who had the balls or ovaries to create such a page, I’d like to extend an offer to work with you. You’ve gotten more followers in less than a week than I’ve got in a time I will not embarrass myself by disclosing. We can make this a mutually beneficial arrangement: you get the opportunity to help your followers safely engage in drunken sexual behaviors; I get exposure to your followers.

Before I uphold my end of the deal I am bound by personal and professional ethics to inform you that per California Penal Code 261PC, it is considered a form of rape to engage in sexual behavior with anyone incapable of giving consent due to being under the influence of any mind-altering substances or chemicals, including alcohol.

In no way am I encouraging anyone to engage in sex under the influence, but if you’re going to do it anyway, here are three tips on how to do it safely:

1: Practice using safer sex methods while under the influence. The best way to do this is to get a group of like-minded friends together and have a safer sex practice party. Sounds strange, I know.

2: Be prepared at all times. You should be carrying safer sex methods with you anytime there may be a chance — even the slightest — that you may get lucky and get some. Suggested safer sex methods to carry with you include traditional and/or insertive condoms, dental dams and gloves. If you don’t need the supplies, maybe a friend will.

3: Obtain or give consent prior to drinking any amount of alcohol or taking any substances. If you know that you’re going tPic of male and female being intimate after drinkingo a party and want to let off sexual steam, let a potential sex partner know in advance. This works best if you know in advance who you’d like to hook up with after you’re sufficiently inebriated.

The ball is in your court dear student creator(s). To uphold your end of the deal contact me at your earliest convenience. I’ll even treat you to lunch.

Until next Saturday: keep it safe and sexy,

Robin, the Sex Goddess

 Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

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