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Sep 29

Birds Do It. Bees Do It. Bears Do It.

Posted on Monday, September 29, 2014 in UC Berkeley

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess logoToday kicks off Sexual Health Awareness Week (SHAW) at UC Berkeley! SHAW is a super sexy and sex positive event held each fall semester that uses fun, games, and humor to promote awareness of sex, sexuality, and sexual health issues and concerns.

SHAW’s theme this year is Birds Do It. Bees Do It. Bears Do It.  As many of my readers know, I have been working super hard with a group of sex positive librarians to put on a sex ed exhibition, Birds Do It. Bees Do It: A century of sex (mis) education in the USA. I thought I’d be clever and plan SHAW to happen simultaneously with the official exhibition opening reception on Wednesday, October 1st. It doesn’t hurt that I’m one of the featured speakers at the reception. I’m just saying…

Shep_BirdsBeesBears_Final (1)This year’s event will not disappoint. Wednesday, October 1st, 11:30 – 4:30pm, is our main event on Memorial Glade! There will be several tables with sexual health information, educational games with sexy prizes, and opportunities for you to share what you would like to see as far as sexual health education on the UC Berkeley campus. The infamous SHEP penis will be out in full erect – I mean effect – ready to pose for pics with you and your friends. Free safer sex supply samples will be available.   Community partners such as the Center for Sex and Culture, Good Vibrations, and STD Triage will be there. Check out what else we’ve scheduled for you:

9/29 – 10/3 Daily: Random Acts of Sexiness. Our lovely Sex 101: Topics in Sexual Health as well as our Sex and Disability decal students will be all over campus offering fellow bears condoms…Roll on you bears! For times and exact locations check fb.com/SHEPSexperts.

9/29 Monday: Student Sexual Health Educator Panel. Sexual Health Education Program (SHEP) Sexperts will be sharing a little about why they do what they do and answer questions from those of you considering doing it too. Pun so intended. Cum join us in 83 Dwinelle from 6:30-7:30.

9/30 Tuesday: Student Sex and Disability Panel – Are Cripples Screwed? If you want to know the answer and learn more about sex and disability you’ll have to come to the panel! This sexy panel is going down at the Tang Center in the Class of ’42. We’re not too far for sexy people to come!

Sexhibition10/1 Wednesday: Professional Sexual Health Educator Panel. Panelists include Carol Queen from the Center for Sex and Culture & Good Vibrations; Nicole G. from Huckleberry; and Tang Center Health Educators, Alicia Harris for sexual assault prevention and me, the Sex Goddess, representing college sexual health and Black sexual health! This is a great event and opportunity for any bears who are interested in pursuing a career in the field of sexual health education and/or who would simply like to chat with leaders in the field and learn more about sex, sexuality, and sexual health from various professional perspectives. This sexy panel will be 6:30 – 7:30 in 102 Latimer.

Before this sexy panel begins, don’t forget to stop by the opening reception of Birds Do It, Bees Do It… to hear about the evolution of sexual health (mis)education from History Professor, Thomas Laqueur, Dr. Malcom Potts, and me your campus Sexologist and Sex Goddess. The reception will be held in the Morrison Library in Doe Library, Wednesday, October 1st , 4:30-6pm. Light refreshments, sexy talk, and sexhibition!?! It gets no better! Certainly hope to see you there! Until next time…

Keep it safe and sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

 

 

May 25

Masturbate-A-Thon: Need I Say More?

Posted on Saturday, May 25, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoToday is probably the Sexiest Saturday of the year yet! The official masturbate-a-thon for National Masturbation Month is this evening! Are you going?  If not planning to participant in the event right now, by the end of the article maybe you will be. Unfortunately, I’m not going. My original reason for not participating is that as a sex educator, I’d hate to run into my super sex positive students while masturbating. I’m nearly 100% sure that’d be a turn-off for me.

Although I’m not formally participating here are 5 sexy reasons you should seriously consider it:

  1. For a good cause. The masturbate-a-thon was created to encourage a sex positive dialogue with regard to self-pleasure and masturbation.
  2. You can win a prize for masturbating longer than anyone else or having more orgasms than other contestants.  I think I could definitely win one of these, what about you?
  3. You can fill any exhibitionist fantasy you may have.  Many people have fantasies of exposing themselves. The masturbate-a-thon is a fabulous opportunity to expose your genitals, have fun, and experience pleasure all at that same time.
  4. Can fill any voyeuristic fantasy you may have. Just like folks have fantasies of exposing themselves, others may have fantasies of watching others be sexual. Again, masturbate-a-thon may be the best place for you to be this evening. If you’re really a voyeur, you may want to participate at the Center for Sex and Culture (CSC) as opposed to participating from home, which is also an option. Be sure to follow the rules so you don’t get disqualified though.SS21 masturbate a thon
  5. Hell, you get to masturbate! No explanation needed.

If you’ve never masturbated in front of others, let this be your public masturbation debut. If you’ve never masturbated, check out Sex for One – an earlier post on solo sex debuts including tips for achieving maximum pleasure. Everyone masturbates a little differently. Don’t believe? Just watch – if you go to the event tonight.

Now that you’ve been convinced to “come for a cause,” here’s the deets you’ll need to know. The Masturbate-a-thon will be held at the CSC located at 1349 Mission St. in San Francisco, CA. You can arrive as early as 7pm. There is a $30 participation fee that can be paid at the door. If you completed the pledge form early, bring that with you to enter. All funds raised will go to support efforts of the CSC.

Writing about masturbating has made me want to, well, masturbate. My informal participation shall continue now. I’m pretty sure I can win most self-induced orgasms! I’m just saying….Until next Saturday.

Keep it Safe and Sexy,

Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

Apr 27

The Never Ending Infection

Posted on Saturday, April 27, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays, UC Berkeley

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoThis is the last Sexy Saturdays article for STD Awareness Month! Today, I’m writing about one of the most common viral infections among college age populations.  If you’re thinking HIV, think again. Herpes infects more than 775,000 people each year in the US. Did you know there are 2 types of herpes associated with sexual experiences? Herpes simplex virus (HSV) -1 is commonly referred to as oral herpes, while HSV-2 is often referred to as genital herpes. But make no mistake, you can get either of these types of herpes on or in your mouth, genitals, cervix, and/or anus.

What’s up with this super common infection? Like Chlamydia and gonorrhea, herpes is often asymptomatic (without visible symptoms) and goes unnoticed in many infected persons. When symptoms are present they look different. HSV-1 symptoms present as cold sores.  HSV-2 symptoms are usually in the form of lesions. While symptoms may go away on their own or with antiviral treatment, herpes reserves its right to resurface or recur. It is more likely to exercise this right to recur during times when your immune system is weakened. Recurrent symptoms may include fever, headache, and tingling sensation with both HSV-1SS 17 HSV 1 and HSV-2. Initial outbreaks tend to be worse than recurring outbreaks.

If you have a cold sore you have herpes. If you get a cold sore in the future you will have herpes for the rest of your life. When I say this in workshops no doubt someone says “that can’t be true. I’ve had cold sores all my life. How did I get it?” Herpes simplex virus 1 and 2 is transmitted through direct contact with infected mucous membranes, lesions, genital or oral secretions, or infected skin. Transmission through infected skin is during an asymptomatic period of shedding. If you’ve had cold sores for as long as you can remember it is likely that you contracted herpes as a baby, or child. Maybe you were so cute that someone with herpes felt the need to kiss you. Though this person may not have been having an active outbreak at that time, they were able to transmit HSV-1 when they kissed you.  Lucky you! I’m just playing. I know, it sucks – and not in a good way – that you have herpes and didn’t even get to experience any sexual pleasure to get it. Just for the record, don’t even consider asking to kiss my super cute daughter.  It’s nothing personal, well, yes it is.

ss17 herpesOne of the most intriguing aspects of herpes is that if a person with oral herpes, HSV-1, performs oral sex on someone they can give that person oral herpes on their genitals or anus. If you don’t like cold sores on your mouth, just imagine having them on your genitals. It also works the other way too. If someone performs oral sex on someone infected with genital herpes, they can get HSV-2 on/in their mouth.  

If you think you may have herpes, it is best to let your primary medical doctor examine you during an outbreak. However, some providers and clinics have the ability to diagnose herpes through blood tests when no visible symptoms are present. Some providers and clinics may also be able to DNA type test your herpes to see which type you have, if any.

How do you get rid of herpes? You don’t! However, there are antiviral medications that may suppress herpes resulting in a decreased amount of outbreaks. Daily use of such treatments may also reduce your risk of transmitting herpes to your partners. The good news is that outbreaks tend to decrease over time even without suppressive treatment.  Given that herpes is not curable, it would be better to prevent transmission in the first place.  Because herpes may not be covered with traditional condoms, I suggest using insertive condoms for penis to vagina or anus sex with an infected partner, or partner whose status you don’t know as they cover a larger area. Dental dams are a great way to prevent transmission during mouth to vulva or anus sex. Last but not least, traditional condoms can help prevent herpes transmission during mouth to penis sex.  Until next Saturday…

Keep it safe ‘n sexy,

Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess

Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

Feb 23

Prepping for Drunk Sex

Posted on Saturday, February 23, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoHave you seen the pages dedicated to drunken college hook-ups? I have and I find them disturbing on many levels, although I have found a few positives which I may share in a follow-up article. This is not an entirely new article, but rather a revision of one that I wrote as an op-ed piece in response to an article on drunken sex that pissed me off.

Instead of attacking the student(s) who had the balls or ovaries to create such a page, I’d like to extend an offer to work with you. You’ve gotten more followers in less than a week than I’ve got in a time I will not embarrass myself by disclosing. We can make this a mutually beneficial arrangement: you get the opportunity to help your followers safely engage in drunken sexual behaviors; I get exposure to your followers.

Before I uphold my end of the deal I am bound by personal and professional ethics to inform you that per California Penal Code 261PC, it is considered a form of rape to engage in sexual behavior with anyone incapable of giving consent due to being under the influence of any mind-altering substances or chemicals, including alcohol.

In no way am I encouraging anyone to engage in sex under the influence, but if you’re going to do it anyway, here are three tips on how to do it safely:

1: Practice using safer sex methods while under the influence. The best way to do this is to get a group of like-minded friends together and have a safer sex practice party. Sounds strange, I know.

2: Be prepared at all times. You should be carrying safer sex methods with you anytime there may be a chance — even the slightest — that you may get lucky and get some. Suggested safer sex methods to carry with you include traditional and/or insertive condoms, dental dams and gloves. If you don’t need the supplies, maybe a friend will.

3: Obtain or give consent prior to drinking any amount of alcohol or taking any substances. If you know that you’re going tPic of male and female being intimate after drinkingo a party and want to let off sexual steam, let a potential sex partner know in advance. This works best if you know in advance who you’d like to hook up with after you’re sufficiently inebriated.

The ball is in your court dear student creator(s). To uphold your end of the deal contact me at your earliest convenience. I’ll even treat you to lunch.

Until next Saturday: keep it safe and sexy,

Robin, the Sex Goddess

 Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

Jan 26

Smart is the New Sexy

Posted on Saturday, January 26, 2013 in Sexy Saturdays

Ms. Robin, Sex Goddess LogoA few weeks ago my Dad posted this image on my facebook page saying “teach this in your sex ed classes!” Sorry, syllabi for all classes have been created so Dad, this blogs for you…How smart do you have to be to be considered sexy? You don’t have to be Sheldon from the Big Bang Theory smart, but having some degree of intelligence is definitely sexy. In my first Sexy Saturdays article I told you there was little sexier than intelligence. I still stand by that statement, but I’d like to add that being sex savvy counts as a form of intelligence.

Smart is new sexy imageBeing sex savvy is not limited to knowing a bunch of positions. Hell, anyone can watch videos of teens dancing on YouTube and learn all the positions in the Kama Sutra and then some. Don’t believe me? Try it – I dare you. Anyway, young folks doing dance moves that would put strippers to shame is a topic for another blog…

Sex savvy is much more than just knowing positions, it involves having accurate sexual heath knowledge and being aware of how you are impacted by sexual experiences.  For example, it is not enough to simply know that you should use condoms during your sexual debut, if applicable. A sex savvy person would do some research and go into their debut knowing there may be pain and blood involved for the partner being penetrated vaginally or anally. Armed with this knowledge, the sex savvy individual would do further research to learn how to minimize this.  An even savvier person would talk to friends and professionals about the emotional impact of having sex, get on some sort of birth control method if there is a risk of unintended pregnancy, and talk to their partner about fears, concerns, and expectations of their debut together.

Beyond being sexually savvy about initial sexual debuts, folks should familiarize themselves with information about prevention of sexually transmissible infections (STIs)/HIV, and unintended pregnancy. While this may look different from person to person, for most it includes having regular check-ups on your genitals and reproductive parts, as well as STI testing.

Now for the good news: I can help you be the sexy sex savvy person you are meant to be by educating and informing you about various sexual health topics in multiple ways. If you are a student at UC Berkeley, you can meet with me for your general sexual health education. If you live in or close to San Ramon, you can take a semester long class with me. I’m a great instructor – check me out on ratemyprofessor.com. If you’re anywhere else in the California Bay Area, I’m happy to come do one or more workshops for you. Need more on-going personal assistance on your road to sex savviness? I got you! And, not just because my Dad asked me to. Until next Saturday.

Keep It Safe and Sexy,

Robin, the Sex Goddess

 Have a topic or question you’d like me to address in a future Sexy Saturdays article? Send it to me at RMills@sexucation.org.

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